All The Single Ladies

I should be ashamed of myself!

Hi Single Ladies,

How you doin’?  If you are anything like me, you are doing your best to be content with your single girl status, but if you are really honest with yourself, you are flat out tired of it!

You have thrown numerous bridal and baby showers and wonder when it will be your turn to be showered. 

You have 10 less than flattering colored dresses hanging in your closet and long to say yes to that white dress!! 

As a side note, does anyone else have a thing about wearing a dress you wore as a bridesmaid to another wedding?  I will NOT do it.  I think it is because I feel like I will look like bridesmaid because well, the last time I wore this dress I was one.  Maybe it’s just me and maybe I am being silly because not all of my bridesmaid dresses have been ugly less than flattering, but everyone has quirks and that’s just one of mine. 

If you are like me, you have had some disastrous dates.  Married people try to encourage you and tell you that dating is fun.  You kindly remind them that dating IS fun when you meet the right person.  They’ve forgotten that part because they have been blessed to be with the right person for a long time. The free dinners, the “good stories that come from the disastrous dates” are not worth it.  The movie “27 dresses” is not all that funny because you feel like you are watching your life play out on the silver screen.
 (It does have a good ending, but still….)

If you are anything like me, you subconsciously observe your married friends’ relationships a lot.  You learn from them.  You might come home and cry your eyes out because you WANT THAT!  You also might see others and think if that is what my life would be like, I’d rather be single.  But, the truth is, you don’t want to be single!!

You want to find your husband, your teammate for life (as I like to refer to him).
 

Dating seems way more complicated than it used to be.  You’re not looking for a “morally causal” relationship.  You want one with Christ in the center; one on solid ground that will withstand the storms of life. 

You want a man that “will like it and put TWO rings on it!”

Today, I was reading this blog and found this.  Jenna is doing an online seminar about dating with intention.  I’ve been out of the dating world for awhile to focus on myself and deal with everything that has happened to me over the last year, but I have to get back in the game.  I don’t want to end up an old maid!!! 

I firmly believe that if God places a desire in your heart, He will fulfill that promise.  I deeply desire to be married with a family.   I was really excited to learn that Jenna is doing this and signed up right away!  It’s on April 22 from 9-10pm EST.  Jenna is talking about dating from a Christian perspective, so if you prefer to be “morally casual” this probably isn’t for you. 

If you are looking for that lifelong commitment with the teammate God’s made for you, sign up!  Spots are limited, so hurry up and do it!  If you do sign up, let me know in the comments.  Maybe we can discuss it afterwards.  All of my friends are married, so I am always looking to meet more awesome single gals….and guys (but this one is just for the ladies!)     

My first VICTORY!!

A Rainy Day

It started raining last night and has been raining off and on all day. It feels like we've had a lot more rain than usual this Fall.  The leaves on the trees seem more brilliant. I heard the sharp hues of red, yellow, and orange are thanks to the rain. Science was never a strength of mine. I have no idea if there is solid proof to back up this theory, but it sounds good to me so I'm going with it. "April showers bring May flowers -- rain way past our due (share) brings a sharper hue" Ok, well, it doesn't really rhyme, but you get the idea!

Now that I am starting to feel better, I am getting anxious. Antsy. Trapped. Not just physically, but emotionally. I want this cast off. I want to be able to move. Even if it is just baby steps. It feels as if someone super-glued me to my current position in life and I am stuck. Recently, my friends have shared with me the wonderful news of engagements, pregnancies, babies or much anticipated trips! Let me tell you, I am SO excited for all of them and am thinking of ways to make them feel special during such important events in their lives! But, on the other hand, their progress is a reminder to me that I am stuck and I am not sure of the next steps that would allow me to progress too.

Then while catching up on my blogroll I come across this:


Not what I needed to see! It certainly resonated with me except I would change it just a bit. I have been somebody's first choice just once. I don't want to be somebody first choice just once or even a few times anymore. To not have to wrack my brain over the best date to take to an upcoming wedding would be so nice. To have a teammate to explore the world with and to ride the waves of life would be a true blessing. I want to be somebody's first choice FOREVER.

It's raining right now. Outside and in my heart. It's a good thing I can't move because I don't know where to go. All I can do is pray. The rain brings brighter colors. Beautiful flowers. Rainbows.

Dear God, please bring my rainbow soon.