I'm not much of a read for fun type of girl. I would go to the bookstore as soon as I got my summer reading list from school and tell the clerk that I wanted the books that had the least number of pages and the biggest print. I could care less about the subject. I just wanted to get through the summer reading as quickly as I could. People laugh at me when I tell them I want to go to law school and that my undergraduate major consisted of a ton of reading. For some reason, I don't mind doing that, but picking up a book for fun is just not my cup of tea.
If I recommend a book, it must be good because I would have never made it through it, if I was bored for even a second while reading it. My favorite book lately is
A Good and Perfect Gift by
Amy Julia Becker. It might help that the author is a close friend of mine, but I honestly think I would recommend this book even if I had no connection to the amazing woman who wrote it.
Cuddled up in my bed, I tore through this book cover to cover in just
one day.
You may pick up this book, realize that it is a story of a family
raising a child with Down Syndrome, think that is not relevant to you
and your life and put it back down. Yes, it is indeed a memoir about the
surprise and challenges a first time mother felt when she learned two
hours after her daughter's birth that Penny had Down Syndrome. Amy Julia
had always placed high value on education and intellectual ability so
this news brought dark days filled with sadness, fear, disappointment
and shock that Penny may not live up to the dreams imagined for her
while she was in the womb. Not only did the Beckers have to adjust to
life with a newborn baby, Penny's Down Syndrome diagnosis ushered in a
storm of questions and (perhaps) a dramatic adjustment in the life they
had envisioned for their eldest child. More importantly, Penny forced an
adjustment in the definition of perfection. Amy Julia candidly recalls
her initial disappointment in the diagnosis and takes readers on the
emotional and intellectual journey associated with the first two years
of Penny's life. She asks uncomfortable questions. "
Will I be able to be proud of her? Will I be able to love her?" (page
25) At first, she is not so sure. But as the book goes on, Becker leads
the reader to see that these questions are not just those a parent of a
child with a disability asks. She examines her own assumptions of
"perfection" and challenges the readers to do the same.
Now you say,
"Well, Jess, that's great, but this book seems even more irrelevant to me because I am not a parent"
Neither am I, but as a person with a disability I
loved this book
and want everyone to read it. This book beautifully articulates the
struggles many people with disabilities feel. Fully able people often
think the biggest challenges a disabled person face are physical or
intellectual, depending on the nature of the disability. The truth is
the physical (or intellectual) challenges are not high on our worry
list. If we don't know how to do something, we will either try to do it a
different way or don't know what we are missing anyway so it doesn't
really matter. I would argue the greatest obstacle a disabled person
faces is getting the world to see them as they see themselves: as a
person with a
disability rather than a
disabled person.
In
A Good and Perfect Gift, Becker takes the readers on her personal journey from seeing her daughter as a
disabled person to a
person with a
disability.
“Can
she live a full life without ever solving a quadratic equation?
Without reading Dostoevsky? I’m pretty sure she can. Can I live a full
life without learning to cherish and welcome those in this world who
are different from me? I’m pretty sure I can’t.” (pg 123)
If you are a book worm and enjoy well written books, this is for you. If
you are looking for an engaging story, pick this up when you have time
because you won't be able to put it down. But, if you are interested in
growing as a person, do me a favor and read this book. You will be
changed -- for the better.
Hopefully, now I have intrigued you and you want to know more about this read. If so, go
here.
You will find many reviews and may I point out that Becker's book was
selected as one of the best of 2011 by Publisher's Weekly! Now that
you're sold,
go get it here!
It's a good and perfect book -- and my favorite!
